Will Smith's Keys to Domestic Bliss

Want to know what Will Smith says are the two key elements in his great marriage to Jada Pinkett-Smith?

"Really, really good sex. I'm really good at it. (Also) we talk a lot. Sometimes people hear us talking and think we over-talk situations but communication is everything," he told Starpulse.com. And I agree-- constant communication and sex can develop great intimacy and confidence in any couple. No wonder they are always smiling!

If you want to be "smiling" all the time in your relationship too, then make sure you continue to inspire and support your partner in both of these areas as well. If you need help, just check out my book "Intimate Widsom" or my DVD "Sacred Love-Making" for tips and ideas. Then you can have a great relationship like Will and Jada's too!

Heidi Klum & Seal: Keeping the Passion Going

Who says the passion has to fizzle once you're married and have kids? With supermodel Heidi Klum it started the first time she saw her sexy singer husband Seal and has never stopped:

"I met him in a hotel lobby in New York City and he came in just from the gym and I was sitting there and I was, like, wow," Klum tells Oprah Winfrey on her show, "Superstar Couples."

(Wow, as in Seal was wearing bicycle shorts.)

"And I pretty much saw everything," says Klum. "The whole package."

From that moment on, the passion never died. The couple says on The Oprah Winfrey Show that they've worked to keep those early feelings alive.

"The most common hiccup," says Seal, "is when the first child comes along. And it turns into all about the kids, which is understandable because they're miraculous. But then you've got to put each other first. You know, she will always be number one for me."

"Is it true?" asks Winfrey.

"I have the most romantic husband," says Klum. "I do."


That's what every wife (or partner) should be saying! Let me know how you make sure your passion stays alive so your partner says the same about you...

An Inspiring Couple: Patrick Swayze & Lisa Niemi

Patrick Swayze has been in the news a lot recently due to his health issues, but I'd like to take a moment to point out what the media should also be talking about-- his inspiring, long-time marriage to Lisa Niemi. The two have been married since 1975 and he credits her support and friendship to a lot of his happiness and success over the years and also states that her strength and commitment has helped him get through the "challenges" too.

He even told the media that he had a "special relationship" with Lisa even before their marriage. The "Dirty Dancing" star said that he had lived her for a year before they had sex, although it was a tough task to accomplish, as they were sharing the same bed.

"We were friends for a long time before we became lovers. We even lived and slept together for a year before we had sex. That wasn't easy," Swayze said.

"I never took part in all that locker-room banter about sexual conquests. All those guys who say they go out every weekend looking for women usually wind up getting drunk and never ending up with anyone," the actor added, "I had somebody real to go home to. That was more important to me than sex, even though I missed it."

But luckily the wait was worth it and the two have now been together for 34 years--so far-- and I wish them many, many more!

Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins: Family and Couple Activism

When you think of conscious-minded, empowering, activist role model couples Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins definitely come to mind-- for their work with everything from AIDS awareness, to working in soup kitchens and supporting their personal political beliefs is not a secret-- yet it's when they decided to balance their "activist roles" with their families needs for awhile that made me look up to them even more...

Their biggest community service project during this time is to put their children first when they are most in need of them. "I wish I did more, but I feel my family's needs are a priority," Susan said in an interview with Laura Sheaden for Beliefnet.com, "I'm not comfortable with the idea of serving the many and ignoring my family. In the bigger picture, I see myself getting more and more involved as they leave the nest and don't need the daily attention." Susan and Tim did start a great family tradition though to teach their children the "joy of service." When their children each turned 16 they marked the occasion by doing something involving community service-- which the children decided on.

What a great tradition-- and role model couple-- for others to follow! They're definitely showing people that it's not that you can't do it all, you just have to find the balance in doing it all at once.

Please DON'T Make These 2 Your Role Models

Oprah and Tyra Banks both did shows yesterday about the disturbing relationship between singers Riahanna and Chris Brown and why these two troubled souls should not be role models. I agree. Why? It's simple. People who love you shouldn't hit, demean, or abuse you in any way. Period. There is no way to justify otherwise. And people who do try to justify it need help with their own self-esteem issues. Both Riahanna and Chris Brown deserve to be loved, honored, cherished, and valued-- but not until they first learn to love themselves and not want to hurt each other (or anyone else, ever).

My wish for them is to find that. And I'm glad both Oprah and Tyra agree...

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How was The Bachelor's Discernment?

Hi Everyone,

I don't know if any of you watch ABC's, "The Bachelor" but I have this season. For me it is a somewhat entertaining case study on how a person chooses a partner that is or isn't really compatible for them.

Last night, The Bachelor Jason Mesnick asked Melissa to marry him in the Finale of the show. However less then 15 minutes later on "After the Final Rose" he said he was ending it with Melissa because he didn't feel they had the right chemistry after all.

Well he should have asked me because it was clear that while Melissa was a lovely and very loving young woman and they cuddled well together they did not have enough of a Yin Yang dynamic--which is actually what chemistry is --the compounds of (Yang) fire and water(Yin) that creates steam and the ultimate dynamic relationship. Jason is actually a yin water personality-quiet, solid, steady and Melissa is very much a yin personality fluid, receptive, soft, easy going. While they looked cute together and seemed to get along well, what Jason needed was to pick a woman with a personality that was more firey than his own which is the why he was so attracted to Molly. She wasn't afraid of taking charge, trying new things, going the extra mile. She lite him up and you could see it on his face when he was with her.

I for one was disappointed that Jillian the 2nd runner up from Canada was not picked. She actually possessed both strong yin and yang qualities. She was successful, fun, honest, and knew who she was a lot more than the final two that he choose. But Jason told her in the end that he didn't know if he could keep up with her and I absolutely believe he told Jillian the truth. However it was fascinating that Jillian actually did not want to believe that. When she was on the "Women Tell All" show to discuss the events she said that she believed what he said was an excuse and if he really wanted to be with her he would have. Wrong! This is what women do so often-they say I don't believe him-when the man has actually told the truth which keeps women on a path of chasing and picking men that are completely not right for them and that don't want to be in a relationship with them.

I believe that Jason is still developing. He is a young man that needs a young, developing woman to be by his side and both Molly and Melissa are that. I think he made the right decision to say he made a mistake quickly (saving everyone alot more heartache) and take a chance with reapproaching Molly. I actually think their chemistry just might work for both of them.

As for Jillian--My advice is Aim Higher!-You deserve it and you can have it!! Empowered ladies take note!